DO NOT LET THAT BREAK-UP BE YOUR BREAK-DOWN

Love is considered by many as that special spoonful of sugar that sweetens life. It runs like a river between our hearts, quenching our souls’ thirst. However, sometimes in a blink of an eye, this life’s sweetener can metamorphose into a vile and sour concoction. The river of love can also dry up in an instant causing our hearts to become deserts. When that time comes and love is taken away, most people usually sink into a quagmire of hopelessness and depression. The million dollar question therefore is; how does one deal with a break up?

Separations can turn you into a ball of emotions. Don’t deal with these emotions on your own. Speak to your best friends about it, and you will find out that sharing your emotions is a remedy that can lessen your grief and make you feel better in less time. Get outside help if you must and if you can afford therapy; go ahead and call your counselor.

One dire mistake that most people make is dashing into another affair immediately after a breakup, hoping that their new-found affair will help them forget their ex faster.  Be wise; do not make that mistake. Rebound relationships rarely work out. It is better to give yourself a break. Most relationship experts recommend a minimum of three months.

They just told you that it’s over, and your heart has sunk into an all-time low. Now is the time to down your sorrows in that bottle of Bluemoon Vodka, right? No, you’re just lying to yourself. Drugs and alcohol only offer temporary solace; but that pain is bound to haunt you again later. Also by taking to drugs, you risk an addiction that might even cost you your life in the long run. Stay away from drugs while depressed.

Though you may be feeling like the world has just crushed on you and life has lost all meaning, it is always best to give yourself hope for a brighter future. Grieving forever will only hamstring you from living a happy life that you deserve.  You need to move on; this is not the time to let your once sweet dreams turn into nightmares. You have a whole life in front of you; do not waste it crying over spilt milk.

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FEAR NOT; JUST FALL IN LOVE

Who doesn’t appreciate the magical feeling of being in love? Love, God’s gift to humanity, is a cake so sweet that everyone is yearning to taste a piece of it; right? We all want to be overcome by feelings of warmth, care and affection, don’t we?

My opening paragraph may pass as simply rhetorical, with an assumption that all people take pleasure in affairs of the heart. However, that is not the case with everyone. There exist people who get suffocated at the mere mention of the relationships. Even when they’re lucky enough to be offered love, they will never take it with open arms.

One reason that causes people to be scared stiff of romance is fear of getting hurt. Such fear may stem from the fact that past relationships were fruitless frolics that never worked. Thus, such people wear disappointments from past relationships like hideous blings, thwarting them from ever experiencing the bliss of love again.  Such people fail to realize one vital nugget of wisdom: Wounds from previous relationships will never heal until the day you’ll experience the happiness of true love. Meeting someone new is the best remedy to forgetting an ex or overcoming the heartaches of a past relationship.

Don’t fall in love, you will get hurt. Although a false fabrication, gainsayers have gotten many people to believe this erroneous fallacy wholeheartedly. While it is true love might rub us the wrong way once in a while, this should never be the reason why you should pass on its many benefits.  Just because road accidents are rampant in Kenya doesn’t deter you from travelling, does it? Don’t be so afraid of getting hurt that you end up passing the chance of being happy. It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.

In love, the pros outweigh the cons by far. Love not only puts in you in a better, more positive frame of mind, but also helps you to love and accept yourself. Next time when those fuzzy emotions show up, don’t try to suffocate them lest you want to miss out on the most wondrous thing ever! If you’re given a chance to be in love, by all means take it. No matter how much you’ve been hurt before, no matter how inadequate you might feel… Never let your fears triumph over love.

 

Jowal Jones,

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